How do your earliest peer relationships continue to shape every connection you make as an adult? The answer lies in understanding siblinghood.
Your Sibling Blueprint:
The Mediator
You developed exceptional skills at understanding different perspectives, facilitating communication, and helping others resolve their differences. Whether naturally stepping into this role among siblings or being the one others came to for advice, you became the relationship expert of your family or peer group.
How This Shows Up
Friends often turn to you for relationship advice.
You're good at seeing all sides of a situation.
Sometimes, you take on others' relationship problems as your own.
You might struggle with your own relationship needs while helping others with theirs.
You're naturally talented at creating connections between people.
You feel fulfilled when you help others improve their relationships.
You tend to analyze patterns in relationships, which helps in giving advice.
You may find it challenging to set boundaries when others rely heavily on your support
Your horizontal relationship pattern
You learned that your value lay in helping others connect, which gave you deep relationship intelligence but sometimes at the cost of focusing on your own relational needs.
Hi! I’m Minaa B.
I’m a licensed therapist, author of "Owning Our Struggles," and creator of The Siblinghood Theory. As the youngest of 13 in a blended family system, I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to understanding the profound impact of sibling relationships on adult connections.
Whether you have biological siblings or are an only child who had to choose your siblings, I believe sibling relationships are reflected in all types of connections we form, be it platonic, romantic, or even in workplace dynamics. I developed this quiz to help guide you and gain a better understanding of yourself. The Siblinghood Theory is simply a new way to describe adult relationships and the way we talk about family.
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Learn to apply your relationship wisdom to your own life, set boundaries around others' drama, and recognize that you deserve the same care and attention you give others.
Disclaimer: This information does not constitute a diagnosis. It serves as a resource for your relationships. If you have concerns about your mental health and the stability of your relationships, consider consulting a mental health professional in your area.
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