How do your earliest peer relationships continue to shape every connection you make as an adult? The answer lies in understanding siblinghood.
Your Sibling Blueprint:
The Harmonizer
You learned that keeping the peace was essential for maintaining relationships and family stability. Whether as the middle child who mediated sibling conflicts or the child who adapted to avoid family drama, you became skilled at reading the room and maintaining harmony.
How This Shows Up
You tend to avoid conflict and may suppress your own needs to maintain peace.
• You're good at understanding multiple perspectives.
• You might find it challenging to express strong opinions or disagreements.
• You're attracted to calm, stable relationships and environments.
• Sometimes, you feel invisible or believe your voice doesn't matter.
• You often seek harmony, sometimes at the expense of your own desires.
• You may be hesitant to take leadership roles or assert yourself.
• You prefer to listen more than to speak in group settings.
Your horizontal relationship pattern
You learned that your role was to support others' relationships and keep things smooth, sometimes at the expense of your own authentic expression. You may struggle to believe relationships can survive conflict.
Hi! I’m Minaa B.
I’m a licensed therapist, author of "Owning Our Struggles," and creator of The Siblinghood Theory. As the youngest of 13 in a blended family system, I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to understanding the profound impact of sibling relationships on adult connections.
Whether you have biological siblings or are an only child who had to choose your siblings, I believe sibling relationships are reflected in all types of connections we form, be it platonic, romantic, or even in workplace dynamics. I developed this quiz to help guide you and gain a better understanding of yourself. The Siblinghood Theory is simply a new way to describe adult relationships and the way we talk about family.
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Learn that healthy conflict strengthens relationships, helps you find your voice and opinions, and discovers that people can love you even when you disagree with them.
Disclaimer: This information does not constitute a diagnosis. It serves as a resource for your relationships. If you have concerns about your mental health and the stability of your relationships, consider consulting a mental health professional in your area.
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